By Fausto Fernós on October 18, 2007 | Share & Save | Link | Print |
Nuttyfudgeskins! Freakin’ frackin’!Corn sarn it! Like it or hate it, cursing may actually be good for you.
A recent study by a British University on 100 British and American people found that cursing actually can serve to relieve stress and allow groups of people to vent frustration and build stronger relationships, if done wisely. If not, you just sound like Alec Baldwin talking to his daughter on the phone, you little pig!
Professor Yehuda Baruch from the University of East Anglia who oversaw the study said: “Managers need to understand how their staff feel about swearing. The challenge is to master the art of knowing when to turn a blind eye.”
Fabulous! Podcasts, free of FCC regulations, may actually provide some health benefits to them by encouraging you to express yourself freely and openly.
On today’s show we exercise that right by talking to one of fabulous local friends, Jim Pickett, director of Advocacy for the AIDS Foundation of Chicago, the Midwest’s largest AIDS advocacy group. Jim used to perform at the live shows back in the day (1999) and now works full time working to teach, preach and inform people about the pending issues that people living with HIV/AIDS face today. Check out Jim’s blog, lifelube.blogspot.com
Like P-Diddy says, “we all have AIDS.” If one of us has it it, everyone has it. So you owe it to yourself to get tested and find out more about this life threatening disease.
On the show with Owen Keehnan two weeks ago we were talking about “bareback” porn where the actors purposely do not use condoms. I made the comparison to other types of risky behavior that Hollywood used to portray often but doesn’t anymore and offered the perspective that perhaps one day the American porn industry won’t be making as much of this type of porn because audiences wont identify with it as much as they do today. One of our lovely listeners, Curtis pointed out that I might be wrong in making the comparison between smoking in film and condomless sex in film. He feels that perhaps the motivations are these types of behaviors is different. We ask Jim his thoughts on these subjexcts and invite you the listener to tell us what do you think?
Being diagnosed with HIV doesn’t mean the end of your life in any way. But it does mean you are now living with a disease, and you need to take good care of yourself. Understandably, there is a difficulty that people face when they are involved in relationships where both participants do not have the same HIV status or as we like to say are engaged in “sero discordant relationships.” Say it with us a folks, “sero discordant relationships.” Well, I have to tell you if Chris Evans told me he was deeply in love with me and was HIV positive, we’d still manage to make it work, but having been in mixed HIV status relationship in the past myself, I know it’s not easy.
On a more delicious note, the World of Chocolate is just around the corner!
Yes, it’s as delicious as it sounds. The World of Chocolate is the AIDS Foundation of Chicago’s annual holiday fundraiser which features more than 30 of Chicago’s finest chocolatiers, restaurants and caterers all showcasing their finest, strange and wonderful chocolate confections. Tickets start at $75 and includes an open bar and light buffet. It’s a great evening and a fabulous place to meet other free-thinking groovy handsome men and women like yourself. We’ll be there!
Join us:
World of Chocolate- Benefit for the AIDS Foundation of Chicago
Thursday, November 29 5:30-9pm
Hilton Chicago
720 South Michigan Avenue, Chicago IL 60605
tix: $75 advance, $100 door
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patchouli_stink says:
October 19, 2007 at 02:33I love to listen to live dead on my ipod but I had to install Rockbox firmware in order to play the lossless flac files which the dead shows are generally traded in but it has been well worth it because the audio of some of those recordings are ever soundboard, forget what radiohead did with their latest album which only left people yearning for a quality copy not something at such a low bitrate, free music is the future and the amount of artist beginning to allow their shows to be traded online without question is increasing thx for the show and check out bt.etree.org for live torrents I will be there seeding like a good boy
Erik R. Sosa says:
October 19, 2007 at 07:30I think I swear inmynext segment! It was a stress releiver!
Ventura79 says:
October 19, 2007 at 14:23Great Fucking Show!
I fucking Love Swearing, i find it relaxing it releases tension! (saca la presion! i love it when u say that Fausto) But where was I , oh yeah fucking swearing, yeah my favorite words to say are Cunt, Bitch, Whore, Asshole, Fuck You, Shit, you know the good old holy words.
Jimmy i love the blog Im gonna feature you on my blog that way all the gays get their faguloz tips!!!
Marc I love to hear you laugh it cracks me up, Loved the show today it was the SHIT! informative and Bitchin’ !
MUAH!
jimberly says:
October 19, 2007 at 16:36Aint you sweet Ventura. I love the Faguloz and will def put it on the LifeLube blog….
xxoo
Miss Noble says:
October 19, 2007 at 22:13if i were in chicago i totally would go to the world of chocolate.
FUCK YEAH!!!
Xavi says:
October 20, 2007 at 16:58Excellent excellent show. Definitely have Jim on more often!! I laughed, I agreed, I disagreed, I laughed some more. Keep up the great work.
ps..I really enjoyed the show in SF! the best part was hanging out with all of you afterward.
Billy says:
October 20, 2007 at 19:12Love the shows with Jim Pickett. He talks about important issues and has a great positive energy to him.
I’m also a fan of the guy standing behind the cake in the World of Chocolate picture above. But that’s an entirely different story….
Erik R. Sosa says:
October 21, 2007 at 08:05I”ll be painting live at the WOC..please stop by and say hello!!!
timr says:
October 21, 2007 at 13:20Loved the show. i put on the ipod and took a long walk to listen to the show. Great guest. Jim Pickett is a gifted listener and communicator. How well he managed to put things into perspective while pushing safety and especially communication. What a perfect message to use when talking about HIV and AIDS.
then at the end of the program you played a song and it was the ideal music for the mood i was in and the walk i was taking through neighborhoods of low white mediteranean houses with red-tile roofs and plants and palm trees everywhere.
my favorite curse words to use when i’m on the train and then on my way to work in rome on my scooter are: cunt fucker, puttana di merda and deficiente dii merda. i know the first two items might seem mysoginistic, but for me “cunt fucker” is usually applied to men whom i imagine use the concept “ass fucker” everyday when they say vaffanculo. and cursing in english here does have some advantage. i just have to be careful the italian versions don’t slip out when one thinks the sounds are only coming out inside your head. cursing is very looked down upon here in any even semi-formal exchange (say you’re really fighting with a horrible checkout lady who’s totally insulted you and you say vaffanculo everyone will stop and stare in shock at you). yet they use these terms all the time in joking and telling stories or complaining to someone about something on a personal level, but never outside that. in america we’re much more used to it in many situations. and in ireland fuck is more common than “you know” is in the usa.
again, great show. thanks.
timr says:
October 21, 2007 at 13:23oh, i forgot. how about a music episode where you guys play the best songs out of those you haven’t used before (or present something new) and talk between songs, but mainly just play your favorite music.
michael says:
October 21, 2007 at 15:24Great discussion. Jim Pickett was a very interesting guest. Just one little bone to pick with him - it was really not a nice thing to mock Fausto about his sigmatism. Actually I think it´s kind of sssweet 
jimberly says:
October 21, 2007 at 18:41So glad a bunch of you enjoyed this episode. I always have fun with the boys and love to hang out with them and blabber. Its nice to be able to discuss serious issues like gay men’s health and HIV and have FUN and LAUGH at the same time. Besides, when they book me I usually end up working from home - only a few blocks from them - and so I get to skip one awful commute on our strained and agonizing public transit system. I hope you all do take a look at our gay men’s health blog - http://www.LifeLube.blogspot.com. We launched in February and really want to be a place on the web where you can get good info and enjoy yourself at the same time with plenty of visual stimulation and occasional goofy shit for levity and balance. If you like what you see/read, let me know. We are running profiles of readers who like the site and you could be next… The blog is available as a subscription via email and reader, so please check it out hons if you haven’t already!
xoxo
Jim
jimberly says:
October 21, 2007 at 18:43Shhhhhhhucks, I typed in the F’in blog URL wrong!
http://www.LifeLube.blogspot.com
Galdurnit….
JoshPoz says:
October 22, 2007 at 11:59Great discussion, and I really like Jim’s take on HIV and dating. It is realistic, reasonable and great advice for someone like me who is trying to figure out dating from a new vantage point. Thanks Jim!
Marc Felion says:
October 22, 2007 at 21:01,blockquote>not a nice thing to mock Fausto about his sigmatism. Actually I think it´s kind of sssweet
I think it is sweet too.
I had to look up “sigmatism” which is - a defective pronunciation of sibilant sounds. Also a sort of “lisping”, and hissing.
But, in Fausto’s case, I think its from growing up in a Spanish speaking island and not really a lisp.
Boston Bob says:
October 23, 2007 at 10:57Loved the discussion on HIV and dating.
My late husband and I remained in a loving relationship for several years after he tested positive. His diagnosis changed our relationship very little. We remained together until I took a job in another city and he chose not to come with me. We stayed in touch and continued to be close, spending weekends together etc., until he got very sick and refused to allow me to see him anymore.
That being said, I would not start a relationship with a man that I knew was HIV positive. But it is purely for selfish reasons, I know that I would not easily handle the emotions involved. However, if I was already involved with someone who then tested positive, I would not abandon him. Being HIV+ is not the death sentence now that it was then, but having been through it and loosing someone I loved so much to such a terrible disease, has had a permanent effect on my life and I dont know that I have the strength to do it again.
Troy in Sacto says:
October 23, 2007 at 20:40OMG Fausto! “Leprosy and violent diarhea?” I practically crashed my car laughing. That was awesome.
Curtis says:
October 24, 2007 at 14:35Great show. I guess I’m a little behind in listening (I’m always about 2-4 shows behind it seems). Thanks for addressing my comments from the previous show. I’m not sure the discussion on this episode necessarily entirely captured exactly what I was trying to address, but I appreciate it anyway. It’s a difficult thing to try to completely capture each others full meaning and intent from sound bites or comments. I would likely have to write several paragraphs to explain myself and then nobody would read it anyway. That’s the nature of these things I guess.
I love that the show can address serious issues and light hearted ones, I love the balance that is always struck. Fausto and Marc are simply genius podcasters! Thanks again.
Curtis says:
October 24, 2007 at 14:38One more quick thing for clarification. When I’m commenting on the threads and on shows I’m doing so as just plain old Curtis Jensen, not as “Curtis Jensen, Marketing Director of Steamworks” My opinions are not those of Steamworks but my own.
jimberly says:
October 24, 2007 at 17:08Curtis, I for one would be interested in what you had wanted to express. And judging from the discussion on this thread, I think others would pay attention also!
Jim
Katers says:
November 1, 2007 at 01:59LMAO I loved that comment that Jim said (I think it was Jim)… “I gotta a little tray of haught-dawgs”. That made me laugh SO much. I wanna make that into a ringtone 
Born in San Juan, Puerto Rico, Fausto Fernós created the Feast of Fools in 1998 as wacky artists variety show in Chicago, Illinois.
Along with his partner Marc Felion, he hosts the world's most downloaded talk show for gay people on the internet, Feast of Fools.
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Fantastic! Any chance we can get “Doing Time” in the Feast Blast?
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Jann’s face in the iTunes podcast photo reminds me of Liev Schreiber…or is it just me?
DavidMcD | November 19, 2008
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Great show, great interview and great music guys. You have the greatest photos of all your guests, nice work!
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miguelito | November 20, 2008
I don’t blame African-Americans; I blame the No campaign. They didn’t make a persuasive argument in their ads. They allowed the Yes...
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brain-fork | November 19, 2008
Fantastic! Any chance we can get “Doing Time” in the Feast Blast?
Bobby In Oklahoma | November 19, 2008
Jann’s face in the iTunes podcast photo reminds me of Liev Schreiber…or is it just me?
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I am praying for all the world’s religions to stop pushing their beliefs down my throat. I agree with you Fausto, if all reverends were as...
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October 19, 2007 at 00:23FIRST COMMENT AGAIN!!!
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